Monday, October 29, 2012

The 4 most asked questions we get after people learn we are adopting.

Well here is first blog post about this journey we have chosen or perhaps has chosen us.  I thought, I would start with the four most asked questions we have been asked since we decided to adopt.

"What country are you adopting from?"

"Ummm. It is a country called "Los Angeles" - have you heard of it?" It really is melting-pot so we will most likely be matched with a child that does not match our skin tone.  I really hope society isn't as narrow mined as I think it might be.

"What if you get a bad kid?"

"Hmmmmm. Bad like a toddler who has a tantrum in the grocery store? Bad like a teenager who steals something? Bad like a fifth grader who needs extra tutoring in school? Bad like a college student who gets drunk and tries marijuana?" or "Bad like a serial killer? Better yet - what if I gave birth to a BAD kid?"

"Did you try to get pregnant?"

Yes - we had lots of "rolls in the hay" but we didn't try any alternative methods of getting pregnant.  I'm 42 and we just didn't feel like it was right for us with our age and history.  We have lots of friends and family who have had very successful pregnancies with alternative methods and that is awesome.

"When will you be getting Baby?"

As soon as we are certified Foster Parents we will start getting calls for a child to be placed with us. Last week Babies were turned away because there is not enough homes and now they are living in facilities.  It is heartbreaking.  We are planning on taking a last big trip before we flip the green-light. We are calling it our Babymoon.  After a child is placed with us, travel together will be tough as we will have to get court approval.  As soon as the adoption is finalized we can do whatever we want but until then we don't have any rights!  We can't even cut their hair without permission.  I think we will be ready in February 2013.  This will be after our work and fun travel, our home study will be completed, our classes finished and the room will be ready. 

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